Last night I went to my very first clothing swap at Patrcia Tinsley's house. Patricia is a trade director for a high end bartering service company. You can check out her company at www.tradia.net
Anyway, how this clothing swap works is that you bring your gently worn clothes that are sitting in your closet collecting dust because you're either tired of them or they don't fit you anymore and you bring them to the party. Your once loved clothes are then checked in and placed on racks based on size. Keren Charles of Fashion to Envy, www.fastiontoenvy.com who owns a special occasion dress rental company, brought in racks and organized the clothes for the event. Her company by the way rents out dresses starting at $20 for 3 days. Back to the swap, 4 at a time women go into the room with the clothes and pick out 4 items of clothing they want to try on and then go to another room for the fitting. In the meantime another 4 girls enters the room and looks for their clothes and the process repeats. After you've tried on your clothes, you can go back into the clothes room as often as you want looking and trying on more clothes.
I really enjoyed this event for the following reasons:
1. It was free and I think most of us like free in this down economy.
2. I made some great new friends. Besides the hosts, I met some great women including Denise Leitch Jackson who owns an art gallery. If you'd like to have an event at her gallery, you can find her at www.leitchfineart.com
3. My favorite suits that no longer fit me anymore went to Debbie, a women who fit into my clothes perfectly who really appreciated them. This made me feel really good to know they were going to someone who would happily wear them and that they would be loved in their new home.
4. I found some great clothes that looked fabulous on me. I came away with a black strapless dress with a stylish slanting bottom, a black sleeveless v-neck dress from INC, an animal print dress that really suit me, a really cute striped summer tank top, a great pair of Michael Kors jeans, a black sleeveless beaded top with rhinestones (perfect for salsa dancing), a baby blue sleeveless summer dress, and a sleeveless black velvet dress for the winter. Most of these clothes were Debbie's by the way so we just swapped closets.
5. I have more space in my closet again and this time most of the clothes left are ones I'll actually wear.
Anyway, back to the main reason I started this post. Patricia made a great appetizer in which she made a pizza with tortillas. She laid out a tortilla and put spaghetti sauce, fresh basil, mozzarella cheese, and pepperoni, and baked it. It was easy, quick, and turned out well. I liked it so much that after my workout this morning, I decided to go to Publix and buy those ingredients to make it for myself.
This is where I flexed my wisdom muscle. In the past, I very easily gave into my cravings and desires not only with food but with shopping. I think it's a control issue for me. It was 8am and I wanted to make this easy type of pizza I just learned about the night before. I had just done some weight training in the gym and then was going to go for a walk but I wanted to make and eat this pizza instead. I was reminded of a book that I'm reading now called, No Matter What! 9 Steps to Living The Life You Love by Lisa Nichols.In it she talks about different emotional muscles to build. They are: your understanding muscle, your faith-in-myself muscle, your take-action muscle, your I know like I know muscle, your developing your honesty muscle, your say yes muscle being willing to play full out, your determination muscle, your forgiveness muscle, and your highest choice muscle which is meeting your needs from the inside out.
Anyway, because of the muscle concept, I decided to create a new one for me to practice using. That's my wisdom muscle. Normally, I would have gone home at 8am and baked this pizza to satisfy my cravings and overstuffed myself in the process. But something in me said that that would not be the wise thing to do. My long-term goal is to be healthy and create healthy habits. Skipping my morning walk, my thinking and rejuvenating time in exchange for pizza would not be wise. Even if I didn't walk for 45 minutes which would have been ideal, I talked myself into going for at least 15 minutes because something was better than nothing. This tiny step is a technique I've learned to help me overcome my procrastination habits. If you know how much I love food, this was a big step. I made a serious and deliberate conscious effort to choose the wise thing to do which was to support my health over my animal desires of eating. And I feel so good about my decision. On my way out, I grabbed my ipod and listened to a podcast called The Daily Audio Bible from which I got some great inspiration for the day.
Below is a passage that really spoke to me from Proverbs 16:1-3.
"The reflections of the heart belong to man, but the answer of the tongue is from the Lord.
All a man's ways seem right in his own eyes but the Lord weighs the motives.
Commit your activities to the Lord and your plans will be achieved."
This meant to me that we can't help what we feel. Our heart feels what it does. It reacts to situation. However, how we chose to respond to our situation with our words is from the Lord. I just looked up the interpretation from my study Bible and it means that the final outcome of the plans we make is in God's hands. If this is so, why make plans? In doing God's will, there must be partnership between our efforts and God's control. He wants us to use our minds, to seek the advice of others, and to plan. Nevertheless, the results are up to him. Planning, then, helps us act God's way. As you live for him, ask for guidance as you plan, and then act of your plan as you trust in him.
Will you use your wisdom muscle today, look at the big picture, take the high road, and ask yourself what the wise thing to do is when faced with a decision?