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January 2011

Decisions...Decisions...

ClearMindfulness 

How do you make your decisions?

Things to consider to make smart decisions:

1.  What is the purpose of this decision? 

Get used to asking this question about everything in your life.  What is the purpose of anything that you do?  Why are you doing what you're doing?  Are you running your life or is life running you?  Are you intentional with your life?  At the end of my life, I want to be able to say that I made the most with what God gave me and that I made a positive impact to support and serve those around me.  Do you know your purpose with this one decision or your bigger purpose in life?

2.  What are at least 5 possibilities? 

We often limit ourselves to 1 or 2 possibilities when in reality, the possibilities are endless.  What options can you consider?  If you can't come up with other possibilities, ask what's getting in your way? To get more possibilities, change your perspective.  I am the queen of looking at things from different angles.  Call me if you want some support with that.

3.  With each possibility, ask, how are you going to feel? 

Which one feels best? "We are not human beings having a spiritual experience.  We are spiritual beings having a human experience." -Teilhard de Chardin.  How do you want to be?

4.  And the ultimate question If I do "x", will it allow me to be more of who want to be or not?

This one is pretty self explanatory and can stand alone, apart from the other questions.  Is it getting you closer to your end game or further away?

*If you're pondering a decision and want some support with that, consider calling me for a free sample session. 


My One Word

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"My One Word is an experiment designed to move you beyond the past and look ahead.  The challenge is simple:  lose the long list of changes you want to make this year and instead pick ONE WORD.  This process provides clarity by talking all of your big plans for life change and narrowing them down into a single thing.  One word focuses on your character and creates a vision for your future.  So, we invite you to join us and pick one word in 2011."  For more support in how to choose your one word, go to:  www.myoneword.org 

The one word I chose is "effortless."  What does this mean to me?  Oh, so so much!  It means not struggling.  I want to go with the flow, wherever the spirit leads me.  I want to make this year as effortless as possible and create powerful systems both in my belief systems and external systems that will make my life easier.  It means leveraging the tools and resources I have available to me to make my life as easy as possible.  It means surrendering to God's will and allowing him to do his work through me.  I am merely an instrument in his orchestra and I want to allow his music to flow out of me as easily, effortlessly, and as beautifully as a jazz player plays the blues on her saxophone.  Focusing on this word doesn't mean that I won't face conflict or that I will have to give in to arguments.  It does, however, mean that through it all, I will choose to go with the flow much like wind blown tumbleweed rolling over the hot Texas plains.  Effortless is also about being true to myself and standing up for what I believe in while at the same time honoring others and their beliefs and remaining humble in my interactions with them.  What would your word be?

An example of how I became more aware of the focus on my word was after a committee meeting for an organization I serve with.  It was our first meeting of the year and we had several items to discuss on this 1 hour call.  During the whole meeting we covered 1 or maybe 2 topics.  I could feel the anxiousness growing within me as it became clear that time was running out and that we were not going to conclude with clearly defined objectives, deadlines, or action items.  I'm so used to having meetings in which I walk away with something to work on and this meeting was stopped abruptly due to time, without us discussing the next steps.  I was frustrated and inquired of myself, why?  I later realized that a lot of my self-worth comes from doing things.  Unless I'm "doing" something, I don't feel very useful and I didn't feel like we made much progress.  I then remembered what Susan, a fellow life coach, shared at her intention-setting workshop a week ago.  She said to keep your focus on "being" versus "doing."  I would have been a lot more calm if I were just fully present in the meeting, "being" there without worrying about what we would be "doing" and trusting that the "doing" portion of the committee would be taken care of in its own good time.  If I had focused on being versus doing, the process would have been more effortless for me.  I realize now that I had to go through this experience to learn this valuable lesson. 

How will you reinvent yourself this year? 

Instead of doing more, will you join me in being more? 

What's the one word you want to grow into this year?


A Fun and Easy Way to Set Goals

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It's the last week of January now and I'm reflecting on how I want this year to be different.  While listening to a Jack Canfield telephone seminar earlier this month, I was impressed with the new approaches he took towards goal setting.  If you're not familiar with Jack Canfield, he's one of my favorite authors as well as the originator of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series. My favorite two books he wrote are The Aladdin Factor and The Success Principles.

One of the more powerful approaches to goal setting that Jack offered was to focus on the feelings you want to feel this year.  Think about and identify the emotions you want to experience more of in your life.  What are the emotions you want to experience this year? 

This year I want to be more:  energized, inspired, connected, captivated, peaceful, and encouraged.  After you've identified the emotions you want to experience, close your eyes and sit with each of your emotions one at a time.  Get into the feeling state of each emotion.  Next, identify what activities are linked with each of those emotions.  For example, when I am in a state of feeling energized, I ask, what is happening and what am I experiencing? I can see myself doing physical activities like cycling, playing tennis, or doing water aerobics.  I also get energized when I support someone in a way that leaves them better than before our interaction.  I get LOTS of energy from coaching as it's a powerful way of being with others that inspires them to improve their lives.  There's nothing more fun for me than talking with someone about their dreams, exploring their motivations, and creating action plans to make it happen.  I've done this exercise with each of my feeling words and it's given me a great awareness as to what I really want to experience in my life.  I recommend you do the same and watch how your life becomes so much more meaningful and fulfilling as you begin to focus on these things.


Who are you?

The Invitation

By Oriah Mountain Dreamer

Risk 

Thank you Augusta Nash for sharing this riveting and dynamic poem that touched the core of my soul.    You are an inspiration!

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It doesn't interest me what you do for a living.  I want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing.

 

It doesn't interest me how old you are.  I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dream, for the adventure of being alive.

 

It doesn't interest me what planets are squaring your moon.  I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow, if you have been opened by life's betrayals or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain.  I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it or fade it or fix it.

 

I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own, if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful, to be realistic, to remember the limitations of being human.

 

It doesn't interest me if the story you are telling me is true.  I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself;  if you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul;  if you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.

 

I want to know if you can see beauty, even when it's not pretty, every day, and if you can source your own life from its presence.

 

I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine, and still stand on the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon "Yes!"

 

It doesn't interest me to know where you live or how much money you have.  I want to know if you can get up, after the night of grief and despair, weary and bruised to the bone, and do what needs to be done to feed the children.

 

It doesn't interest me who you know or how you came to be here.  I want to know if you will stand in the center of the fire with me and not shrink back.

 

It doesn't interest me where or what or with whom you have studied.  I want to know what sustains you, from the inside, when all else falls away.

 

I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.